Snipped these off Kaykay's blog entries... well they hit the right note.
" I can’t help it. I’m emotional and I hurt easy. How much you can hurt me is directly proportionate to how much I love and trust you. The more I love you, the more propensity for you to hurt me. "
" Perfect, flawed, right or wrong, we have been this way all our lives. And for the past 20something years, we have survived. We got by, we have friends, we had loves, we lost them. We got right here being who we are. And now that we’re together, the separate lives we’ve led and our core beliefs and characters aren’t gonna gel just cos of chemistry and passion, yes? Something’s gotta give right? But neither of us is the other’s parent. I don’t have the right to tell you to change, just as you don’t have any over me. EVEN IF we do say we will change, what are the odds that we can obliterate the past 20+ years and start afresh? A sudden drastic change will only result in a false sense of happiness which will degenerate into oppression and deeper-seated resentment and how long that will last is needless to say. I won’t change just cos I’m wrong, I’ve been wrong all my life. I WILL change though because I love you. It’s gonna take a lot from you. A lot of heart, very realistic expectations that will NOT be met every now and then, monumental effort to be nice during, and relentless patience to rough all of it out. It will probably kill you. When I get angry, all I want is you to understand why, NOT agree and say I’m right and you’re wrong. Absolutely no point in me being right when what I want is you not repeating it. When I go on and on, all I want is you to know how I felt, NOT cos I wanna scold you till I drop dead. When I assume the worst of you, all I want is you to reassure me you’re not like that, NOT cos I really think that of you. And in all of the above and whenever I fuck up(and trust me I will), I need you to remember that I love you.
Because I do, I’m still here to fight you.
Because I do, I feel the need for you to know how I feel.
Because I do, I will get upset when you fall short of just how amazing I think you are. "